You’re so welcome here.

To struggle is to be human. Reaching out to seek the presence of another to be with you in your darkest moments is not weakness, it is an act of fierce self-kindness. We are not meant to do this alone, especially when facing parts of ourselves that feel unbearably painful, scary, or overwhelming.

There are so very many approaches to therapy, and to help guide your sense of whether I may be the right person to work with, I’ll offer a little about what you could expect from our sessions.

I take a non-pathologising view of human behaviour, holding that in the context of the environments in which we developed, and the life experiences we’ve endured, our suffering and the symptoms through which the pain expresses, all make sense.

Compassion

The foundation of our work together is rooted in compassion and absolute non-judgement; where all of you – even the parts you find intolerable – can be welcomed and met with empathy and acceptance. Shame, unworthiness, low self-esteem all arise from becoming identified with faulty beliefs we have absorbed, often in early childhood, about who we are and the value we hold.

No one has ever shamed themselves into feeling better, and so I will be gently supporting you to offer this same compassion inward, so you may learn to meet your Self with acceptance and kindness, rather than hostility and criticism.

Mindful Awareness

Becoming aware of our wounds and unhealthy patterns, while painful, offers enormous hope and the possibility of change. Without awareness, we act unconsciously from these patterns, often in ways that are harmful towards ourselves or others. Through our work, you will learn to witness how you are in the world and recognise in moments of challenge that you have a choice in how you relate to what’s happening. This awareness is what allows healing to take place, so that you are no longer a victim of your past wounding feeling powerless to your patterns.

Safety & Co-regulation

We can survive just about anything if we aren’t alone with it. The space I offer is one of deep safety and attunement. This means that however dysregulated and broken you may feel, you will be met with steadiness and loving presence. During our hour together, I will ‘lend’ you my nervous system so that through the process of co-regulation (where two nervous systems come into contact with one another) the cues of safety you receive will help soothe and steady your system, supporting you to shift from states of fear, sadness, hopelessness, into a place of more hope, clarity, and wellbeing.

There is no hierarchy in our relationship; you are the expert on you, I am your guide to help illuminate the path.

To book a therapy session, you can email me, mar@marhealy.com, or book directly here. Sessions fees are on a sliding scale of €60-€80 an hour, you choose where you’re most comfortable at.  

Whether you work with me or someone else or whether or not you’re ready to commit to formal work right now, please know that healing is always possible. You are not broken and in need of fixing, but hurt and deserving of healing. You matter and you make sense.