Mar Healy

Blog, Growth, Mindfulness

Hello darkness, my old friend.

I see you darkness. I feel your old familiar tug, doing what you can to pull me down into your abyss. It’s tempting, no doubt. But I have a choice. I see now that I have a choice. Before, when you sent shame, guilt and regret to the front line to beat down my defences I was powerless to their force. Not now. Now, I see the space between me and them. I feel my strength, I know my ability and I sense my worth. I no longer believe that they’re inherently interwoven facets of my  ...

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Blog, Growth, Mindfulness

Weeding the garden of the mind.

We arrived yesterday to our new rental property, which is without a doubt, one of the most serenely peaceful and stunning places I’ve ever been. We’re up in the mountains looking out over endless miles of forests, with the only sounds around us coming from nature itself – birds, bees and the neighbours horses in the distance. It’s pure tranquility. I felt very guided to this place, and as soon as we arrived, I felt like I’d come home. Not just to a physical  ...

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Blog, Growth, Lifestyle, Mindfulness

Accepting the darkness…

I think I was around 12 or 13 when I first noticed that the change in seasons really affected me. For a few weeks sometime around October/November time, my mood would take a deep dive, and I’d have this overwhelming sense of darkness, anxiety and sadness. Then poof! – like magic one day, it would suddenly lift and I’d feel like myself again. Every year, I lived in dread of the seasons changing, the sense of impending darkness looming as I prepared for the inevitable shadow  ...

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Blog, Growth, Lifestyle, Parenting

One bad moment does not make you a bad parent.

Maybe it’s hormones, maybe it’s the full moon, maybe it’s just the emotional exhaustion that comes with Mammying round the clock, but today, my parenting on a scale of 1 to excellent, was somewhere around minus shite. After an incredibly challenging morning (read: 7 straight hours of tears, screaming and varying degrees of emotional instability), I decided that even though I really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really, *REALLY*  ...

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Blog, Growth, Mindfulness

Being an asshole to ourselves is not the way.

We had a really nice family brunch at home this morning, and afterward as I sat at the table, my littlest guy had decided to get down on the ground and play with a truck. I took out my phone to send an email, when the sound of him playing remind me to pause; to notice, to put my phone away and to really soak in the image of him hunkered down in his tiny little body. To notice his movements, his chubby little hands, the sound of his voice. Here’s the thing though. When I first woke up  ...

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Meditation

Grounding senses meditation – 15 minute

  We spend so much of our precious time and energy caught up in the busyness of the thinking mind – worrying about stuff that may or may not ever happen, replaying old stories, judging, analysing, planning. It’s exhausting. Our poor minds! Take 15 minutes and gift yourself the cocoon of this senses meditation, coming out of doing mode and connecting in with the aliveness and purity of this very present moment. Mar x

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Meditation

Body Scan Meditation

  I remember the first time I was introduced to the body scan, over a decade ago in a session with my therapist. I have a habit of letting it get to the point where I *need* to see her rather than maintaining regular appointments to keep myself ‘serviced’ – regular software updates, like 😉 So I rocked up to her office with a litany of major life issues that I had concluded we were to fix there and then, in that one hour appointment. I know. So when she starts guiding  ...

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