Mar Healy

Blog, Lifestyle, Wellness & Self-care

Grumpy face goes running.

This was my grumpy face circa 1982 and again at about 8 o’clock last night when I had decided that I was going for a run. I was going, but I was not one bit happy about it. Brain: “Come on so legs, we’re going for a run” Legs: “Nah. I’m just gonna hang here with the rest of Mar’s body. Could be a night for Netflix. Chocolate. You know the drill.” “Sorry dudes, decision’s made, we’re going” “Nope. Not happening.  ...

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Blog, Growth

Feel the pain, but don’t live in it.

We need to feel our pain and process our hurt, but we *do not need to live there*. It’s enough that these things happened in the first place, but a tragedy that we keep them alive in the present. It’s time to let them go. Old traumas can get stuck – as well worn unhelpful neural pathways in the brain, as blockages in the body and in our energy field, as physical and emotional disease. And it’s not our fault that we got hurt, but it is our responsibility to reclaim  ...

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Blog, Growth, Lifestyle

Never rewrite the truth of who you are.

I recently had the opportunity to partner with a company to deliver training, workshops and talks within organisations. Joy!! I was so excited. Nowhere am I more alive than in front of a group of people speaking for the purpose of facilitating growth and inspiration. It’s my turf, it’s home to me, it’s why I’m here. And the amazing thing about partnering is that I get out of doing the stuff that I strongly dislike and suck fairly badly at – marketing, business  ...

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Blog, Mindfulness, Uncategorized

First, Be. Then do.

So often we try and ‘think’ our way out of problems, don’t we? We go over and over the same old thought tapes in an effort to find answers but in the process, we get sucked deeper into the rabbit hole; more stuck, more hopeless. Because in our desperate attempt to find an answer, we tend to focus instead on the problem. And whatever we focus on expands, so this problem or challenge we’re facing starts to feel bigger and heavier and becomes all we can think about. There  ...

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Blog, Growth, Uncategorized

People will never forget how you made them feel.

“I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a “living” is not  ...

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Growth

The beauty of acceptance

“When you go out into the woods, and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. And some of them are bent, and some of them are straight, and some of them are evergreens, and some of them are whatever. And you look at the tree and you allow it. You see why it is the way it is. You sort of understand that it didn’t get enough light, and so it turned that way. And you don’t get all emotional about it. You just allow it. You appreciate the tree. The minute you get  ...

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Blog, Uncategorized, Wellness & Self-care

When all else fails – get up!

I woke in the middle of the night with a busy, buuuusy mind. So I did some mindful breathing for a while, which really quitened things down, but I was wide awake. I checked the time and realised it was actually past 6am. Some far off, usually redundant part of my brain that thinks early morning workouts are a good idea suddenly came to life, and before I knew what was happening, I was in a 6.30am spin class. I know. For some people, that’s no big deal, but my reality is there’s  ...

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Caring for ourselves is an act of survival.

I did a detox this week. I’ll spare you the details, but it basically involved drinking things that tasted like they’d been syphoned out of a garden drain, taking natural cleansers and probiotics. And maybe daily enemas. I’ll stop now. It was supposed to be 7 days, but I just did 4 because I’m not a complete sadist and I have two small children who I didn’t want to end up eating. I’ve upped my meditation to over an hour a day, and started exercising more  ...

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Blog, Growth

Honour the space between no longer and not yet.

“Honour the space between no longer and not yet” I call this space the unknown. What was is no longer, what’s to be is not yet visible. And it can suck to be here. Being in the unknown is the time when we are forced to call deepest on our wisdom and faith. To listen to that higher part of ourselves that’s always present to guide and reassure us, but speaks in whispers while the ego roars. It’s here in the unknown that we need to hold on to belief that  ...

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Blog, Growth, Lifestyle, Mindfulness, Uncategorized

We can always begin again.

Today was an emotional clusterfuck. In fact, the last few days have been. Something about this month has absolutely hockeyed me. For most of December, every one of us in the family has been sick, and sometime around the 19th consecutive day of being in a confined germy space on my own with small, emotionally charged children, with inadequate sleep, very little adult company, feeling mentally and physically burnt out, and either exhausted or interrupted every time I tried to get some work  ...

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Blog, Lifestyle, Parenting, Uncategorized

Children are not bold.

Last week, I was in the park with the boys and my 4 year old was having a bit of a rough time of it – he’s an emotional kid by nature, and when he’s upset about something, he’s *really* upset. So in the midst of his tears and bellows, an older man came up to me: “Is this a bold boy??” “Not at all – he’s a beautiful little boy, he’s just having a tough day” “I don’t know, I think he might be a bold boy” At  ...

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It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness That most frightens us. We ask ourselves Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small Does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking So that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, As children do. We  ...

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