Mar Healy

Blog, Growth, Spirituality

Loving the unlovable.

The more I sit with this, the more I feel that so much of our suffering in world is rooted in judgement and intolerance. When we strip that back, we start to see this real lack of acceptance, and when we backtrack further again, we’ll find that this lack of acceptance starts within each one of us individually. We don’t or won’t or can’t accept ourselves; something about us is not ok to us. Maybe it’s how we look. How we get depressed. The chronic pain we  ...

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If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door.

It’s early one August weekday morning. The sky is sunny and clear, the roads are quiet, still too early for the daily hustle to have begun. A 17-year-old me who’s barely slept the night before with nervous anticipation, quietly leaves her home to begin the journey towards the postal sorting office to intercept my coveted letter before it’s sent off on delivery. It’s leaving cert results day. The day I’d mentally rehearsed and fantastised about for so long,  ...

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You are the Universe

The greatest tragedy of life is that so many of us show up as half versions of ourselves, too fearful to let the fullness of our truth and our magnificence shine. From so, so early on in our lives, we’re taught to put our focus *out there*. To seek validation and approval, to show up in a way that people will accept us for, to rewrite the truth of who we are to fit into the narrative created by others. What a loss to the world that so many of us play small and hide our greatness, that we  ...

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Be an encourager.

I was in the final kilometre of my walk today and decided I’d run the last stretch. I could see a man up ahead walking towards me and as we got closer he began to clap and cheer me on “wohoo, you can do it, you can do it, yeaaaah!!” Just me and this happy, brilliant, supportive soul – I’m guessing on his holidays in Ireland – passing on this beautiful countryside road, sharing a moment of connection, encouragement and positivity. Awesome. It reminded me  ...

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Meditation, Mindfulness

Unhooking from our thoughts.

  It’s not the fact that we have minds that produce a lot of thoughts (oh hi 60,000 – 80,000 thoughts a day) that’s the problem itself, but more that we believe them. We attach to them, get caught up in them and ultimately identify with them. Learning to step back and observe a mental activity, rather than being swept along by 8, is one of the greatest gift we can give ourselves. Cultivating mindful awareness of our thinking doesn’t mean we stop our thought, but  ...

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The miracle of now….

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is.” ~Albert Einstein These photos are as clear a visual as I can think of to illustrate how much we awaken to when we become present in our lives. My garden the other day, where I was practicing mindful walking to help bring myself back down from feeling caught up in stress thoughts and overwhelm. The distracted, judgemental, rushed mind sees a patch of grass. The  ...

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Blog, Growth, Lifestyle, Uncategorized, Wellness & Self-care

Acceptance.

To be on any kind of path of transformation, personal growth, healing or spiritual awakening, inevitably involves acceptance of all the dark, murky stuff that we straight up don’t like; the things we have a hard time facing. Acceptance  is so counter intuitive – I mean, why would we accept something that we strongly dislike, feel ashamed of, want desperately to change? Because acceptance precedes change. And because in truth, it’s not the thing itself, but our own  ...

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Just this breath…

The lads were playing with elastic bands this morning, and at one point Joss managed to give himself a solid whack on the hand – his little skin marked straight away, all purple and blue, looked pretty sore! Anyway, I was braced for the tears that never came. Something wonderful happened just at the time when he was about to cry. See, he wasn’t wearing a top and when he got injured, he pulled his little hand onto his belly to tend to it. As he looked down to assess his wound,  ...

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Blog, Parenting, Uncategorized

Interrupt me one more time…

If you asked me the hardest thing about parenting….I’m mean, pull up a chair. I’m not sure I’d even know where to start. But I have noticed in my 5.5 years of Mamahood, one of the things I struggle most with and feel rawly triggered by is being constantly interrupted. I say this as a gal who tears up regularly with the sheer gratitude of getting to nurture these incredible little humans. So I truly, deeply appreciate how ridiculously lucky I am to be in the position  ...

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Numbing pain.

This is what’s left of a bar of a sizeable bar of chocolate. I devoured it like a primal Neanderthal, honestly, it didn’t stand a chance. I didn’t savour the bites or notice much about the experience at all because it wasn’t about eating, it was about self-soothing. About the time when my tummy started to ache, I stopped and thought, “what in the shit am I actually doing here? What’s really going on, Mar?” I felt sadness. Pain. Heavy emotion that  ...

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What would Kindness do?

If we went to begin to heal this world, to bring light to all the darkness of hostility and division that exists, we’ve got to each start in our own lives, and start with bringing more kindness into all that we show up with each day. We can’t undo things once they’re said or done, but we can always pause and ask: “What would Kindness do?” * Before we lash out at others online…. * Before we criticise ourselves….for our appearance, for falling short  ...

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Oh dear God, what have I done….

Ok, I feel a bit sick. And teary. These are Jossie’s little curls. Hold me. I’ve stored them in a bag with ‘oh dear God, what have I done??’ written on it. It’s beside the ‘Julie Andrews’ haircut of 2014 when I cut Eli’s hair and he looked like Julie Andrews in the sound of music. I didn’t know whether to laugh, cry or make clothes from the curtains. And now babycurlgate. Is there anything to be said for another Mass??

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This is ME.

Did any of you watch Keala Settle perform ‘This is Me’ on the Graham Norton Show on Friday?? Sweet Mother of all that’s holy, such a phenomenal song and singer and a breathtaking performance. Myself and Gerry were still clapping at the telly 10 minutes later. The power. The energy. The message. Just raw, beautiful brilliance. https://youtu.be/_BNRBgxiS2c *************************************************** I am not a stranger to the dark Hide away, they say ‘Cause we  ...

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When fear feels like truth.

Many years ago, I had an out of the blue opportunity to work in Tokyo in one of the more random jobs I’ve had (and there’ve been a few) working as a weather presenter for a global whether company headquartered in Japan. Stay with me. In the short lead up to my departure, which I think was probably around 10 days notice, I had this really overwhelming sense of anxiety and knot in my stomach that every time I tuned in to, felt like it was telling me not to go; that something bad  ...

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